Therapy for Relationship Anxiety
Centering Queer, Trans, and Questioning People
You love connecting, and you care about being intentional in your relationships.
But when your intuitive radar senses someone pulling away, a pit of anxiety opens up inside you.
You might find yourself analyzing every message, seeking reassurance, or feeling like “too much” or “not enough”.
You understand people are allowed to want space sometimes. But it’s frustrating when that awareness doesn’t stop the panic.
When your relationships are going well, the intimacy feels amazing.
But when the energy is off, it might be hard to focus on work, school, or hobbies, or just feel grounded inside yourself.
Sometimes you might feel hurt and insecure, like you prioritize others more than they prioritize you.
You deserve secure relationships, where you can be your full self confidently.
Identity can add extra layers:
If you're a newly out queer or trans person, or exploring ENM or polyamory for the first time, the stakes can feel higher
You may be unlearning harmful messages about how you naturally connect and communicate, what kind of love is OK, or who's most desirable.
You may be dealing with racism, biphobia, ableism, or TERFery in the LGBTQ+ dating scene.
Relationships can be complicated. You don’t have to navigate them alone.
Therapy can help you soothe your nervous system and trust your worth.
It's possible to feel relaxed in your connections, knowing on a body level that the people who matter will stay.
It’s possible to understand your relationship patterns with clarity and truly heal them.
Therapy can help.
Learn more about me and how I can help!
Some people I work with find certain terms resonate with their experience, like:
Anxious attachment style
Fear of abandonment
Nervous system dysregulation
Relationship hypervigilance
Attachment or developmental trauma
Complex or childhood trauma
Intergenerational trauma
Betrayal or relational trauma
Others find these terms limiting, or just not the right fit.
In my experience, even when people notice shared patterns, their stories and healing paths are always unique.
If certain terms are helpful, we can use them, as tools for clarity, validation, or community.
If they don’t resonate, we can leave them behind.